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Transgaming

katiemidway:

One of the biggest ways people my age interact is through the world of video games. Whether that means Xbox Live, Playstation Network, Steam, or a third party client like Ventrillo, we’ve come to expect that our gaming will have a social element of some kind. Leaving aside the part where I avoid most forms of social interaction with people I don’t know (and sometimes even people I do, but that’s a whole different problem), the increased level of social integration can cause a real problem for trans people who haven’t undergone many of the more advanced changes such as vocal or facial modification, or those who simply don’t want to. 

Back during my days on World of Warcraft, I almost always played a female character, simply because that was my default stance, and it was a small way that I could feel close to what I consider my true gender. I played on Roleplaying servers, and from time to time, flirted with the idea of joining a roleplaying guild. In fact, I did join one for a month or so in high school. I was unsure about the idea, but it seemed like a fun time, and at that point, you couldn’t really do much in WoW without having other people to play with. 

When the topic of real-world lives came up, I, by second nature, gave my gender as female, and didn’t think anything of it. After all, they could only see my character, and read what I typed. I never told them my real name, or where I lived, but then again, this was before you could get all that information from a person’s battle.net account. (That’s a bone to pick another time, by the way) The point is, there was no way for them to know that I wasn’t, biologically speaking, a girl. At first. 

After I had been with the guild for about a month-and-a-half, the old guildmaster quit the game. His replacement took the opportunity to make some changes to the guild charter, including requiring anyone in the guild to communicate via Ventrillo’s voicechat servers. I left the guild, and the friends I had made, that night.

Now, as far as I know, the people in my guild would have been really chill and understanding about the whole thing if I had just explained what was going on. But at the time, I didn’t feel like I could take that risk. As a whole, the gaming community is not always kind to people of alternate sexualities, and the WoW community in particular could be pretty bad in that department. That may have changed, I haven’t played since Wrath of the Lich King came out, but at the time, the thought of having to reveal what I was was frightening. 

With gaming becoming more and more social every year, more trans people are facing similar problems, particularly those who are out of the closet in real life, but still finding themselves having to revert to their biological gender online in order to avoid harassment. MtFs are accused of being pervy guys who roleplay as women/lesbians for some kind of sexual gratification. FtMs are mistaken for prepubescent boys and ridiculed. And it’s getting harder and harder to just avoid using some kind of voicechat, especially if you’re a console gamer. That’s one of the big reasons that I was unhappy with the news that Dragon Age III would include a multiplayer component. 

What I’m trying to say, in my usual too-long-winded way, is that if you find someone online who doesn’t sound quite like you think they should, think twice before jumping down their throat about it. Show a little understanding. You may just make their night. And if it makes you uncomfortable, don’t say anything. They’ll be just as grateful for that.

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thepeoplesrecord:

Going beyond the Western gender binary - unlearning our backward cultural conditioning 

In Western colonial society (which dominates many aspects of the globalized, capitalist world today) we operate under the presumption that there are only two genders, male and female. But gender is a social construction. One’s options for what gender they identify with are shaped by the culture they are born into. Biological factors are most-often the primary driving forces that choose among the available socially-constructed gender categories.

Cultures around the world have different ways of talking about, thinking about, and identifying gender. It’s often a challenge for (particularly cis-sexual) Westerns to think about other ways gender can be socially constructed. Westerns have the false equivalency of gender and sex drilled into their eternal psyche from the time they are very young, and re-enforced through examples popular culture. There is no biological reality to gender. Many Westerners have the bizarre belief that one’s XY-sex-determination should also inform one’s gender identity, a socially constructed role in society.

In some cultures, there is no distinction made between gender and sexual orientation and the same can be said for sexual orientation - our culture socially-constructs the options and our biology helps us identify which socially-constructed option feels most ‘right’ and best resonates with us.

I’ve attached some photos to offer some examples of non-colonial, non-Western construction of gender. They’ve all been uploaded onto our Facebook page photostream in case you’d like to ‘like’ or ‘share’ them there. There are literally hundreds of ‘third-gender’ identifying peoples around the world. The eight I’ve chosen are mostly examples I remember from some of my anthropology courses but if you google ‘third genders’ you can find many lists and examples.

Who cares? Why it matters.

The most obvious reason to care about the way our culture has constructed gender and sexual orientation is to deepen one’s capacity for solidarity with people who identify as transgender, transsexual, and others whose gender or sexual identity exists outside of binary Western culture.

But there are other reasons as well. Western culture’s binary nature often creates non-sensical, problematic binary identity constructions that are inherently problematic. For example, I believe that Western masculinity (dominance, aggression, lack of communication, lack of emotional expression, etc) is inherently problematic. I believe that to be the reason why most acts of large-scale-violence and terror are committed by men (see: 100% of the mass school shootings in the United States), and I believe it fosters a degree of internal misery within people who heavily adopt these particular ‘masculine’ traits.

In the age of information, and the age of global connectivity, there is no longer any reason (particularly for young people) to feel isolated or restricted to Western definitions of gender, sexual orientation and identity in general. I think the social ramifications of a generation where more and more people begin to identify outside of the gender binary would be tremendous, and I think we should all consider how we can unlearn our cultural conditioning to embrace other, perhaps less exploitative and dominating identities.

Background information on the identities depicted in the above images:

Hijras:

Hijras are male-body-born, feminine-gender-identifying people who live in South Asia (mostly in India & Nepal). Many Hijras live in well-defined, organized, all-Hijra communities, led by a guru.

Although many Hijras identify as Muslim, many practice a form of syncretism that draws on multiple religions; seeing themselves to be neither men nor women, Hijras practice rituals for both men and women.

Hijras belong to a special caste. They are usually devotees of the mother goddess Bahuchara Mata, Lord Shiva, or both.

Nandi female husbands:

Among the Nandi in Western Kenya, one social identity option for women is to become a female husband, and thus a man in society’s eyes. Female husbands are expected to become men and take on all of the social and cultural responsibilities of a man, including finding a wife to marry and passing on property to the next generation through marriage. Female husbands may have lived their lives as women and may even be married to a man, but once she becomes a female-husband, she is expected to be a man. Women married to female-husbands may have sex with single men uninterested in commitment in order to become pregnant, but the female-husband (who is often an older woman, often a widow) will father the child of said pregnancy and treat the child like her own.

Two-spirited people

Two-Spirit is an umbrella term sometimes used for what was once commonly known as ‘berdaches’, Indigenous North Americans who fulfill one of many mixed gender roles found traditionally among many Native Americans and Canadian First Nations communities. The term usually indicates a person whose body simultaneously manifests both a masculine and a feminine spirit. Male and female two-spirits have been “documented in over 130 tribes, in every region of North America.”

Travesti
In South America (with a large presence in Brazil), a travesti is a person who was assigned male at birth who has a feminine gender identity and is primarily sexually attracted to masculine men. Therefore, sometimes the distinction between gender identity and sexual orientation is not made. Travestis have been described as a third gender, but not all see themselves this way.Travestis often will begin taking female hormones and injecting silicone to enlargen their backsides as boys and continue the process into womanhood.

The work of cultural Anthropologist Don Kulick (a gay male by Western definitions) in Brazil demonstrated that gender construction in Brazil is binary (like Western gender construction), but unlike Western gender construction, instead of having a male-female binary, there is a male-notmale.

In this particular construction of gender:

  • Males include: men who have sex with women, men who have sex with Travestis but are never on the receiving end of anal sex, men who have sex with men but are never on the receiving end of anal sex.
  • Not-males include: women, men who receive anal sex from ‘male’ gay men or from Travestis.

Fa’afafine

Fa’afafine are the gender liminal, or third-gendered people of Samoa. A recognized and integral part of traditional Samoan culture, fa’afafine, born biologically male, embody both male and female gender traits. Their gendered behavior typically ranges from extravagantly feminine to mundanely masculine

Waria

Waria is a traditional third general role found in modern Indonesia. Additionally, the Bugis culture of Sulawesi (one of the four larger Sunda Islands of Indonesia) has been described as having three sexes (male, female and intersex) as well as five genders with distinct social roles.

 

Six Genders of old Israel
In the old Kingdom of Israel (1020–931 BCE) there were six officially recognized genders:

  • Zachar: male
  • Nekeveh: female
  • Androgynos: both male and female
  • Tumtum: gender neutral/without definite gender
  • Aylonit: female-to-male transgender people
  • Saris: male-to-female transgender people (often inaccurately translated as “eunuch”)

Kathoey (often called ‘ladyboys’)
Australian scholar of sexual politics in Thailand Peter Jackson’s work indicates that the term “kathoey” was used in pre-modern times to refer to intersexual people, and that the usage changed in the middle of the twentieth century to cover cross-dressing males, to create what is now a gender identity unique to Thailand. Thailand also has three identities related to female-bodied people: Tom, Dee, and heterosexual woman.

-Robert

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thepeoplesrecord:

Going beyond the Western gender binary - unlearning our backward cultural conditioning 

In Western colonial society (which dominates many aspects of the globalized, capitalist world today) we operate under the presumption that there are only two genders, male and female. But gender is a social construction. One’s options for what gender they identify with are shaped by the culture they are born into. Biological factors are most-often the primary driving forces that choose among the available socially-constructed gender categories.

Cultures around the world have different ways of talking about, thinking about, and identifying gender. It’s often a challenge for (particularly cis-sexual) Westerns to think about other ways gender can be socially constructed. Westerns have the false equivalency of gender and sex drilled into their eternal psyche from the time they are very young, and re-enforced through examples popular culture. There is no biological reality to gender. Many Westerners have the bizarre belief that one’s XY-sex-determination should also inform one’s gender identity, a socially constructed role in society.

In some cultures, there is no distinction made between gender and sexual orientation and the same can be said for sexual orientation - our culture socially-constructs the options and our biology helps us identify which socially-constructed option feels most ‘right’ and best resonates with us.

I’ve attached some photos to offer some examples of non-colonial, non-Western construction of gender. They’ve all been uploaded onto our Facebook page photostream in case you’d like to ‘like’ or ‘share’ them there. There are literally hundreds of ‘third-gender’ identifying peoples around the world. The eight I’ve chosen are mostly examples I remember from some of my anthropology courses but if you google ‘third genders’ you can find many lists and examples.

Who cares? Why it matters.

The most obvious reason to care about the way our culture has constructed gender and sexual orientation is to deepen one’s capacity for solidarity with people who identify as transgender, transsexual, and others whose gender or sexual identity exists outside of binary Western culture.

But there are other reasons as well. Western culture’s binary nature often creates non-sensical, problematic binary identity constructions that are inherently problematic. For example, I believe that Western masculinity (dominance, aggression, lack of communication, lack of emotional expression, etc) is inherently problematic. I believe that to be the reason why most acts of large-scale-violence and terror are committed by men (see: 100% of the mass school shootings in the United States), and I believe it fosters a degree of internal misery within people who heavily adopt these particular ‘masculine’ traits.

In the age of information, and the age of global connectivity, there is no longer any reason (particularly for young people) to feel isolated or restricted to Western definitions of gender, sexual orientation and identity in general. I think the social ramifications of a generation where more and more people begin to identify outside of the gender binary would be tremendous, and I think we should all consider how we can unlearn our cultural conditioning to embrace other, perhaps less exploitative and dominating identities.

Background information on the identities depicted in the above images:

Hijras:

Hijras are male-body-born, feminine-gender-identifying people who live in South Asia (mostly in India & Nepal). Many Hijras live in well-defined, organized, all-Hijra communities, led by a guru.

Although many Hijras identify as Muslim, many practice a form of syncretism that draws on multiple religions; seeing themselves to be neither men nor women, Hijras practice rituals for both men and women.

Hijras belong to a special caste. They are usually devotees of the mother goddess Bahuchara Mata, Lord Shiva, or both.

Nandi female husbands:

Among the Nandi in Western Kenya, one social identity option for women is to become a female husband, and thus a man in society’s eyes. Female husbands are expected to become men and take on all of the social and cultural responsibilities of a man, including finding a wife to marry and passing on property to the next generation through marriage. Female husbands may have lived their lives as women and may even be married to a man, but once she becomes a female-husband, she is expected to be a man. Women married to female-husbands may have sex with single men uninterested in commitment in order to become pregnant, but the female-husband (who is often an older woman, often a widow) will father the child of said pregnancy and treat the child like her own.

Two-spirited people

Two-Spirit is an umbrella term sometimes used for what was once commonly known as ‘berdaches’, Indigenous North Americans who fulfill one of many mixed gender roles found traditionally among many Native Americans and Canadian First Nations communities. The term usually indicates a person whose body simultaneously manifests both a masculine and a feminine spirit. Male and female two-spirits have been “documented in over 130 tribes, in every region of North America.”

Travesti
In South America (with a large presence in Brazil), a travesti is a person who was assigned male at birth who has a feminine gender identity and is primarily sexually attracted to masculine men. Therefore, sometimes the distinction between gender identity and sexual orientation is not made. Travestis have been described as a third gender, but not all see themselves this way.Travestis often will begin taking female hormones and injecting silicone to enlargen their backsides as boys and continue the process into womanhood.

The work of cultural Anthropologist Don Kulick (a gay male by Western definitions) in Brazil demonstrated that gender construction in Brazil is binary (like Western gender construction), but unlike Western gender construction, instead of having a male-female binary, there is a male-notmale.

In this particular construction of gender:

  • Males include: men who have sex with women, men who have sex with Travestis but are never on the receiving end of anal sex, men who have sex with men but are never on the receiving end of anal sex.
  • Not-males include: women, men who receive anal sex from ‘male’ gay men or from Travestis.

Fa’afafine

Fa’afafine are the gender liminal, or third-gendered people of Samoa. A recognized and integral part of traditional Samoan culture, fa’afafine, born biologically male, embody both male and female gender traits. Their gendered behavior typically ranges from extravagantly feminine to mundanely masculine

Waria

Waria is a traditional third general role found in modern Indonesia. Additionally, the Bugis culture of Sulawesi (one of the four larger Sunda Islands of Indonesia) has been described as having three sexes (male, female and intersex) as well as five genders with distinct social roles.

 

Six Genders of old Israel
In the old Kingdom of Israel (1020–931 BCE) there were six officially recognized genders:

  • Zachar: male
  • Nekeveh: female
  • Androgynos: both male and female
  • Tumtum: gender neutral/without definite gender
  • Aylonit: female-to-male transgender people
  • Saris: male-to-female transgender people (often inaccurately translated as “eunuch”)

Kathoey (often called ‘ladyboys’)
Australian scholar of sexual politics in Thailand Peter Jackson’s work indicates that the term “kathoey” was used in pre-modern times to refer to intersexual people, and that the usage changed in the middle of the twentieth century to cover cross-dressing males, to create what is now a gender identity unique to Thailand. Thailand also has three identities related to female-bodied people: Tom, Dee, and heterosexual woman.

-Robert

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Untitled: Networking, Networking! A call to Pagans in Cape Cod, MA

Having realized that most of the networking sites for Pagans on the Cape are geocities sites that have not been updated since the late 90s, I’ve decided to put together my own.  If you’re on the Cape, know about local Witchy/Metaphisical bushiness, pagan workshops, events, covens, temples and groups, are planning on visiting the area, or are just curious about the goings on in that giant Hippie colony that is everything south of the Sagamore Bridge, feel free to check it out and contribute!

Eventually, I hope to organize a few meet ups, Sabbat and other holiday events and maybe even a pride event.

https://www.facebook.com/groups/147468492071641/

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gambler-x:

absintine:

HELLO TUMBLR

Let me introduce myself, my name is Ellie and I deal with a severe anxiety disorder. I am unable to take medication because I cannot afford it. And what I have taken has either reacted badly with my system, or worsened my anxiety. 

So far the only thing that has been helping me manage this through the years is my precious iPod. Early this past December, my old one stopped charging. And for Christmas and my birthday I received a shiny new 5th gen. I promptly named it Twinkie Chan and I was never seen without it. Because I can’t function without it. I wish I were kidding, it’s sad how dependant on it I am. Just accidentally leaving it at home when I go out is cause for a panic attack. 

And last night, I broke it. In a car door. 
I am so dumb.

Now I am typing this out to explain to you that I am a dumbass, and tell you that I knit some really awesome stuff. And you should commission me. Or not, I mean, there are a ton of other people who need the money more than I do. And you should definitely commission them or donate or whatever. But if you don’t want to. You should look over here. Yes. I will get on my knees and beg if I have to.

Do you want a Harry Potter house scarf replica? That’s nearly six feet long? I can do that. Do you want your initials in it? I can do that too. Are you a Homestuck? I could probably knit your godtier aspect into the scarf and do it in the colours of your choosing. (But I’m pretty sure I can’t actually do that. So use that as an example.) What about South Park? Those hats are my favourite. I’ll knit you any or all of them. (But not Kyle’s because that’s not knitted.) Do you have your own idea for some knitted item? Toss it at me and we can work something out. I’ve done all sorts of things. 

I can knit you a hat for roughly 25 dollars. A scarf for 50+ depending on materials/length/etc. 
Knitting also takes time, so it might be nearly a month before I can ship it out to you.  

I WILL GET ON MY KNEES AND BEG. I REALLY WILL. SOMEONE PLEASE. And even if you’re not interested, could you please reblog this? That would be pretty swell. 

Hey guys, Ellie could really use some help, so to my followers, if you could just give this a quick read, it would seriously help a ton. She makes some honestly amazing things, so if you need something to be knitted for and outfit or maybe just even a scarf, please keep her in mind ok?

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Also, I’m totally pissed that I cannot romance Varric.

mellindahightop:

yay-elves:

Still.

Bioware is evil. They were gonna put a thing where at the end if you didn’t romance anyone(and I guess flirted with him enough)Varric would meet up with Hawke and tell them he told the Seeker everything. Hawke would ask “Everything?” and Varric would answer “Well I left out the part about us”

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Dear David Gaider, why must you deny me all of that glorious chest hair?

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